Sometimes it almost seems like your listening to a broken record. EBay or Amazon make a change and the next thing you know everyone is talking about how the sky is falling. While you can kind of drown out the noise when it’s other people talking, what do you do when you discover that it is you who is behind all that negative self talk?
Well, first of all, it is important to realize that not all negative self-talk is bad. Sometime having some anxiety over an issue is a good thing. It can make us try harder, look at things differently or make changes we need to make. As an example, when sellers discovered that eBay was changing its store fees (yet again), some people initially reacted negatively, but once they acknowledged their anxiety, they realized that it was time to do something else. Some created their own websites, some moved over to other marketplaces like Amazon and Etsy, and some decided it was time to simply buckle down and get more inventory listed.
What do you do when you can’t shake the negative self-talk though? Here’s some ideas that can help you get it under control.
You won’t see the opportunities if you are concentrating on all that bad stuff. As an example, when Amazon decided to limit the amount of what could be sold in certain categories, many sellers just kind of found themselves in a spiral. What am I going to do with all the stuff I can’t sell? What do I sell now? For days on the end, that is all they could think about.
On the other hand, some sellers like Kelly sat down quietly and realized that part of the reason she wasn’t selling more items was because her inventory mainly consisted of the slow selling items that Amazon was no longer allowing. Kelly says it was kind of a wake up call for her. Rather than let it consume her, she decided it was time to get some help with her selling and ended up signing up for some arbitrage training that she had kept putting off.
Challenge your thought pattern
Instead of continuing in all the negative self-talk, take a step back and look at all the things that are going right. Your sales in one category may be down, but that doesn’t mean all of your sales are down. Even if it’s hard to do, find one thing that you see that is going right and focus on that. It can help you break the negative self-talk and help you move past it.
Find a solution
Things may seem bad, but if you take a step back and quiet down all the negative self-talk, you can usually find a way to take control of the situation. Of course, sometimes maybe the sky really is falling. When that’s the case, you just need to find a way to accept that there is nothing you can do, but walk away from it. It may not be what you want, but letting go can help you end the negative self-talk and let you start thinking about what it is that you need to do next.